Identify Your Inner Circle of Trust
Studies show that people who feel more connected to others have lower rates of anxiety and depression. They also have been shown to have higher self-esteem, are more empathic to others, more trusting and cooperative and, as a consequence, others are more open to trusting and cooperating with them.
In order to do that, a good place to start is by identifying safe people in your life. Spend more time with safe people with whom you have “joy bonds” or memories of joyful and fun events versus with people whom your memories are traumatic or painful.
There’s quite a bit to be said about how we respond to one another’s demeanor and the effect it has on us. Again, The Institute of HeartMath Research Center has some interesting findings about our hearts emotions:
- The heart emits electromagnetic fields that change according to your emotions
- Positive emotions create physiological benefits in your body
- Negative emotions can create nervous system chaos but positive emotions do the opposite
It’s important to pick people who you feel are authentic and you are able to connect to their heart and sit in their energy field (not on facetime) and just feel good being with someone who radiates positive heart energy.
When you feel safe, you are able to trust and you are able to learn to express yourself. Connecting on a heart level helps to heal those past experiences and offer you an opportunity to see people in a different perspective.
Connecting with someone else on a heart level allows you to share your authentic self, to exchange stories, to celebrate life’s victories and to empathize through life’s challenges. Friendship also motivates, inspires, and encourages. While it might be difficult for some to take the first step, it’s a step you’ll be glad you took for your overall wellbeing.